Monthly Archives: November 2025

Gratitude

1. Morning walks. We got to walk all three of us together a few times this week. To be fair, we could have done that every day but some mornings Eric and Ringo went and were back before I even got out of bed. We still haven’t had any snow. The forecast keeps teasing it and then taking it away again. I think this is the latest we’ve ever gone without any snow in the 25+ years I’ve lived here. 

2. Ringo got his own apartment for one night. Eric and I were so tired one night, we forgot to put Ringo in his bed, or rather I thought Eric had and he thought I had and Ringo was so crashed out in the living room he didn’t even notice us go to bed and slept out there the whole night. When Eric went to let Ringo out of his crate in the morning, half asleep still, he found the door open and the crate empty, but still he stayed there for a few minutes, saying over and over, “he’s not in there, where is he?” We both got up and walked down the hall and by the time Eric turned on the kitchen light, Ringo was up and heading in for breakfast. I always thought if we left him out, he’d come find us to remind us, maybe even try to get in our bed, or that he’d go outside at some point and I’d wake up to hear him barking in the backyard. None of those things happened. He just slept and so did we. We aren’t going to repeat it though. I like him sleeping where I can hear him.

3. Thanksgiving. It may have been the quietest one yet. We spent the day, just the three of us, cooking and napping and eating. I texted with my brother and he called his dad, but we both were missing our moms.

4. Reading. I just realized that I probably read 2-4 hours every day, which is more time than I spend doing anything else, besides sleeping.

5. My tiny family, small house, little life. I’ve told Eric every day this week how glad I am that he’s home, after being in California most of last week for a work conference. He’s got about two weeks of work left before winter break and next semester he’s on sabbatical to finish a book he and his teaching partner have been working on and then it will be summer break, so soon and for a while I’ll get to see a lot more of him. 

Bonus joy: stuffing (or since I don’t stuff a bird with it, maybe I should call it dressing?), apple pie, having all the laundry done, the way Eric cleans when he’s bored, pay day, stained glass, my Merlin app, sunshine even on a cold day, birds, Hendrix’s school picture, other people’s kids and dogs, cat purrs, down blankets and pillows, a big glass of cold clean water, grapefruit Bubly, grocery shopping, listening to podcasts, listening to audio books, watching good TV, movies on demand, streaming content, libraries and librarians, poetry and poets, texts from Chloe’ and Kari and Shellie, still laughing about Maria and Jackie’s comedy shows, that Andrea Gibson gave so many interviews and made so many videos so I can still hear their voice and see their face, that “the girls” started reading again now that they are older so I can share my favorite books with them, dinner plans with Chelsey and Jon, Christmas lights, napping, reading in bed at night while Eric and Ringo sleep.

Something Good

1. Poetry: The Mirror and Sometimes Grief Looks Like This and Playing with the Wild Child and One Story of How We Make It Through and Thanksgiving and all the poems on her website tagged “Thanksgiving” from Rosemerry Wahtola Trommer, Gloria Mundi by Michael Kleber-Diggs and The Eulogy I Didn’t Give (I) by Bob Hicok from Maggie Smith on The Slowdown, Egg Tooth by Benjamin Garcia, In Praise of Quiet and Awakening with Crow and Species of Least Concern by Julie Barton, and Missed Flight by James Crews.

2. From Isabel Abbott: A Private Atlas and The Shape of Control.

3. The Address of Grief by Laura Lentz on Writing at Red Lights. “Grief is the edge of a cliff, my friends, but it’s also a portal.”

4. Tig Notaro on grieving poet and friend Andrea Gibson on Anderson Cooper’s All There Is. “Comedian Tig Notaro recently witnessed the death of her friend, poet Andrea Gibson, after a years-long battle with cancer. Being by Andrea’s bedside was a profound experience for Tig and she talks about its impact on her in this moving and at times funny conversation.”

5. ‘Stop the Insanity: Finding Susan Powter’ Review: Struggles of ’90s Wellness Guru Get Intriguingly Intimate, if Not Informative, Doc Treatment. “Zeberiah Newman’s documentary finds Susan Powter in Las Vegas and explores her life, celebrity and hopes for a comeback.”

6. Why People Keep GLP-1s Like Ozempic, Mounjaro & Wegovy A Secret“One notable exception in the new era of tell-all beauty? Weight-loss injections.”

7. Signs you might live in a cult on Supernuclear. “An interview with cult journalist and author Ellen Huet, author of Empire of Orgasm: Sex, Power, and the Downfall of a Wellness Cult.”

8. Don’t Recommend a Book to Bryan Washington (Unless You’re a Bookseller) on The New York Times. (gift link) “His new novel, ‘Palaver,’ observes how an expat in Japan and his visiting mother find ‘a new language and way of being that’s amenable for them both.'”

9. Roda Ahmed Tells Us: About Listening to the Silence on Cheryl Strayed’s Dear Sugar, “another installment of my occasional Tells Us series, in which I ask an author to tell us about five things.”

10. Haiku Comics Pep Talk. “Exercises in brevity” from Connie Sun. #2 is my favorite.

11. 27 Holiday Self Care Ideas: Simple Ways to Take Care of Yourself Over the Holidays and The Quiet Power of 8 Gentle Habits That Simplify Your Day from Courtney Carver on Be More With Less.

12. Out the Front Door by Beverley Stevens on Short Reads. *sob*

13. Good stuff from Open Secrets Magazine: The Owl Remains (“On whittling a life down to what matters, and why one lamp still stays with me”) and When I’m Alone, I Try on All My Jeans (“Is my fashion obsession self-soothing or self-abusing?”).

14. How to Stop Waiting for “Better” and Start Living Now. “What If This Is It? Learning to Live Fully With Limitations” by Elizabeth Kleinfeld.

15. Mystery of the Missing Mail on Trackless Wild with Janisse Ray.

16. National Geographic photos for 2025 ‘Pictures of the Year.’

17. The one change that worked: I had Sad and felt desperate – until a scientist gave me some priceless advice. “Since I was a teenager I had struggled in winter, experiencing excessive tiredness and low mood. A specific instruction lifted the gloom.”

18. The Joy of Doing Nothing in Retirement on The Wall Street Journal. “How often have we heard it: Stay busy to make the most of the time we have left. But there’s a lot to be said for doing the opposite.”

19. Now and Forever. “The gift of presence” by Jena Schwartz.

20. Building a Personal Cartography of Pain. “Learning to name what hurts” by Patti Digh.

21. This Year’s Thanksgiving Surprise: Half of the Guests Are Stoned on The Wall Street Journal. “What started as a secret trip to smoke pot before dinner has mushroomed into a full-blown commercial holiday. Behold the ‘cousin walk.’”

22. Friendsgiving 101: A history of the made-up holiday and how to celebrate it.